I DO...
Don't most girls/women dream and love the idea of a beautiful wedding? The one day in your life, when you get to wear the dress of your dreams, invite the people you love and care for and say I DO to the love of your life. I dreamt of that when I was a young girl and teenager, but did I ever celebrate the wedding of my dreams? Nope... I didn't.
I am super traditional when it comes to marriage and I take it very seriously. I believe the key to a successful relationship is mutual love, respect and support. But sometimes it can be very tricky. Every relationship and marriage goes through some sorts of ups and downs. Some marriages make it and some don't. Is there a right or wrong? No I don't believe so. I am sure we are all doing our best and making the best decisions for our relationships and ourselves.
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Years have passed and our life situation has not given us the opportunity to arrange a wedding celebration. In 2021 we will be ten years married and celebrate our ''Tin'' anniversary. I've been thinking that then would be the perfect time to renew our vows. If we decide to do that, the celebration will be even more special, because we get share our special moment with our children.
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What does marriage mean to you? Did you have the wedding of your dreams? I would love to hear your thoughts!
Xoxo
I started with loong story. Was able to save the ending. (me and computers..) So at the age of 31 I was divorced. Now I've met a man, which I did not even believe that could exist. Man that thinks also the needs of his spouse but also kids - kids that is not his. Sometimes I wish I could have met this person long time ago, have kids of our own and the whole package that I dreamed of a young girl.
ReplyDeleteThis man have brought so much good things to my life. And the way he treats my kids and my dog - the dog is soooooo in love with him :D. We just love him. Of course there are some challenges with this uusioperhe setup (he has two kids, older that boys) but when we are together - everything just works. There are some fights between kids, well that's normal sisterhood... but this man can handle everything. Sometimes I'm a bit cranky, he knows just what to do to get my crankiness away :D
We both have been married before, and he has also told that he had never felt like this before. Being in love with a girl, who caused him insomnia when we were apart ;) and we just think alike. Perfect match, i say.
This August we will say "I do", in front of a priest, in our cottage, on the pier (laituri), with our closest friends and family. Just the way we both had imagined without saying it out loud. Like i said, we think alike.
Eventhough my life did not go as I planned it, I'm still grateful for my ex-husband for our children, and the good times that we had. Anna Puu puts it in good words in her song "Kultareunukset".
I think it sounds a wonderful idea to renew vows on your 10 year anniversary - to celebrate with the kids. The family that you have created. Together. I really do admire your strengths and personality :) you really are this power woman who makes things happen.
Wow, this came a huge story, sorry about that :D
/ Maija (girl next door few years ago)
Dear Maija! Thank you for leaving a comment and sharing your story! You are very brave to do so! <3
DeleteI am so happy to hear you are happy. It sounds like you've found your soulmate! I can only imagine the challenges that come with a ''blended family'', but you both are very big hearted to be able to make your families come together as one and accept and love one anothers children.
Does life really ever go as anyone of us planned? I am sure most of us would agree: No... it doesn't or didn't, but it is great to see people do the best they can to live a happy life and move forward. I was a bit nervous about posting this subject, because I want to respect everyones life situations; married, unmarried or divorced. Although I do take marriage and vows seriously, I am fully aware that sometimes divorce is the only option and I do believe we all should remember to take care of our own well being because after all: We only live once! :)
Congratulations on your wedding to be, it really sounds amazing! <3 I am wishing you, your hubby to be and family lots of love, happiness and health. Thank you for your encouraging, warm hearted words... I appreciate it. You are pure gold!
Xoxo
:) and due to the fact that there is xxx amount of space that this allows - it was actually a good thing. Even though it did not publish the first part of the text, i think it was the first time I let myself "go public" with all the emotions, sadness, hate, love, all mixed feelings one might have after years of being together. Very therapeutical thing for me as well :D
DeleteI know I could spend my life fighting and fighting more about the kids but in the end - I don't want them to see that. It's hard enough at the moment to explain your 5 year old that he can love who ever he wants - no matter if his father hates his mother, "dad really hates you mom" after hearing these comments I'm so pissed off but I know how much damage it causes for kids to see parents fighting. So I'm keeping my cool and be the mommy bear with all the love I can give and explain that mom and dad will always love you, no matter what. You cant choose your parents, but parents can choose how they act.
And thank you Marika for your nice words as well :) Take care!!
/Maija